Jack Armstrong: Rapist or Just a Guy who "Got Lucky"?

I am about to get another round of angry women bashing me for what I am about to say. And I am willing to stick my neck out again because I am so sick and tired of this injustice happening over and over again; men being accused of rape without evidence of any such thing happening. Again, I remind you, I am not saying women are never date raped, that there aren't quite a few men committing this criminal act; I am simply saying, let's stop condemning men without proof. A charge of rape can destroy a man's life just as an actual rape can destroy a woman's, maybe even more so because while she is seen forever as a victim, he is seen forever as a psychopathic criminal sex predator.

Jack Armstrong's name is now mud. He has had the label "rapist" attached to his name in hundreds of news articles like this one from the Los Angeles Times. Essentially, the story says that in 2010, Armstrong met the woman outside of a Beverly Hills bar, they went in and he bought her a few beers, and next thing she knew, she woke up in a hotel room with her pants off and with soreness in her private parts. She felt nauseous.

Based on her story, it is being insinuated that Armstrong roofied the woman's beer and from that moment on, she was unconscious on her feet (and off of it) and he raped her while she was dead to the world.

 Only, if you read this far better article from CBS Los Angeles, maybe not:

Police say he used his celebrity status to attract his victim.
“He met the victim at a bar in West Hollywood,” Beverly Hills police Sgt. Max Subin said. Armstrong took the victim to a hotel and she reported the rape the next day, March 5, 2010, he said.
The attack could have been drug-induced, Subin said.
“She woke up, didn’t feel right and realized she was assaulted,” he said.

So, there is no proof of any date rape drug being used. Either she never got tested for it or the test came back negative. Just because the woman didn't feel right when she woke up, doesn't mean she was given GHB or Rohypnol  - who feels great in the morning after they drank excessively the night before?  We don't know what alcohol she consumed before she had the three beers nor do we know if she also had drugs in her system that she put there her herself.

So, if no rape drug was used, then what do we have? If the woman was so drunk she didn't know Armstrong was having sex with her, maybe she was so drunk she didn't remember she had sex with him! If she can be so drunk not to remember what she was doing since she was in the bar (and obviously walked to the car and into the hotel room), why should we believe she couldn't have had consensual sex in that same state with Armstrong being totally unaware that she was unconscious on her feet? For that matter, if the woman can be so drunk as to not know what she is physically doing, why can't Armstrong be equally as drunk and unknowledgeable? And, while we are at it, how do we know she herself didn't rape Armstrong while he was flat on his back unconscious? It can happen. Please read this study about the repeated claims women make about being roofied not  being proven to be true, that most of the time, binge drinking is really behind the condition of women who can't remember what happened the evening they went out partying. Men do ply women with alcohol because they know it makes them stupid and willing to have sex with them (hence, that Joe Nichols' country song about tequila making her clothes fall off).

To make matters worse, now the police are reaching out to the other women who might have been raped by this rich guy. Don't you think a few psycho women might be motivated to get attention and money from  making such claims?

What I see here is an irresponsible police department and irresponsible media. Unless they actually have a confession from Armstrong, there would appear to be zero evidence to convict this man, but the damage will have already been done to him. I don't know this guy; he may be a sweetie or a total tool. He might brag about his wealth and celebrity status to get women to sleep with him (which is no a crime as the police seem to suggest) or women might throw themselves at him because they love money and fame. What I do know is that if the police don't have proof that Jack Armstrong put a date rape drug in this woman's beer which it appears they do not, all we have is a woman who drank too much, went willingly with a guy to his hotel room, and had buyer's remorse in the morning or saw an opportunity to get attention by filing a false police report. That is NOT rape and it is an insult to women who have been raped to say it is and it is wrong to charge men with rape just because they "got lucky" and after the fact, their luck changed.

PS. All "Shame on you, Pat Brown, for blaming the victim!" comments will be removed for being obtuse and not reading my blog properly. I am not blaming true victims of rape for the crime of rape. The rapist is 100% responsible for the crime. However, in terms of date rape, there are more responsible behaviors women can make that will keep them out of the hands of such criminals, like not getting trash drunk and going to hotel rooms with strangers because you think he wants to just have tea and explore your brilliant mind.

Criminal Profiler Pat Brown

November 28, 2013

               

How to Save your Daughter's Life by Pat Brown at Amazon or Barnes and Noble and bookstores near you.

Included in this book, a ton of information about

The Early Years

Partying, Drinking, Drugging, Casual Sex (Hooking Up), and Gangs

Date Rape

The Dangers of Social Networking and the Internet

Risky Relationships

Stalkers

Child Predators, Serial Rapists, and Serial Killers

The Sex Trade and Sex Trafficking

Criminal Profiling Topic of the Day: Teach Your Sons Not To Rape

There have been many very angry women expressing this sentiment following the Steubenville, Ohio conviction of the two high school football players who sexually assaulted a very drunk and near comatose young lady and then proceeded to threaten and humiliate her via social media. There is ample evidence in this case against these young men and that these two creeps were found guilty makes me very happy, Often, in these date or acquaintance type rape crimes, it is a he said-she said situation and it is very difficult to prove a rape or sexual assault actually occurred, that the alleged victim didn't  participate consensually in the act. A Montana college student and  football player was recently found not guilty because there simply wasn't ample proof the girl didn't want sex with him. I thought that verdict was correct.

But in the wake of these cases, I see a lot of furious women mad as hell about anyone recommending that they should educate their daughters on how to keep themselves from getting attacked. These angry women say, "Why do we have to keep teaching our daughters this stuff? Why can't YOU teach your sons not to rape?"

Umm, ladies, you can't teach your sons not to rape. You can't have a birds and a bees discussion and say, "By the way, don't rape girls; it's not nice."

If your son doesn't know that "no means no," and that having sex with unconscious girls is sick and criminal, you have a little psychopath on your hands and he doesn't give a crap about what you say. You lost him years ago when he was a little boy.

What we all SHOULD be are good parents, ones who teach both sons and daughters to be decent people, - kind and respectful, empathetic and law-abiding. When these children get to be teens and adults, they don't commit crimes. I did not have a talk with my sons about not raping girls; they would have been appalled that I would even have considered it necessary to tell them that. I didn't have a talk with my daughter about not tricking a guy into getting her pregnant and to not stalk and kill her boyfriend like Jodi Arias; she would have said, "Just what kind of girl do you think I am, Mom?"

I started giving lessons in morality and ethics when my children were very young, teaching them not to hit, not to be poor sports, to be polite, to not be bullies, to not take what isn't theirs, to not be greedy, to be willing to share, and so on. I started when they were at the breast ("don't bite Mommy") and then kept them from thinking it was okay to pull the cat's tail when they learned to crawl and grab. I kept up the lessons in how to be a decent human being all through their childhood and into their teens. But,  I never had to tell them not to shoplift, steal cars, burglarize the neighbors' homes, set fires, or sell drugs. And I didn't have to tell my boys not to rape. Why? Because I hadn't raised psychopaths or criminals. If you really think you need to have a "rape" conversation with your son, you dropped the ball long, long ago.

And since there are enough young men out in the world who are past the point of moral return and the justice system cannot catch them all and keep them locked up, I will continue to encourage parents to teach their daughters how to keep from getting raped and sexually assaulted. Just because young men should never do bad things, doesn't mean some aren't going to. Being angry about it isn't going to keep your daughter from becoming a victim. So, in spite of a number of angry bloggers who attacked my book, How to Save Your Daughter's Life, for educating parents on how to keep their daughters safe, I am going to keep on educating young women and their parents because I know sex predators are out there - in the high schools, in the colleges, in the neighborhood, and in the home. As a female, I, too, am frustrated at having so many sexual crimes perpetrated against women and I am all for coming down harder on these sex offenders with a much tougher criminal justice system, but, right now, the reality is such that we women have to do what we can to not end up a victims of horrible crimes that will ruin our lives.

Just because some parents need to do a better job raising their sons doesn't mean we should stop doing the job of raising our daughters.They need our help keeping them safe.

Criminal Profiler Pat Brown
March 21, 2013
               

How to Save your Daughter's Life by Pat Brown at Amazon or Barnes and Noble and bookstores near you.

Included in this book, a ton of information about

The Early Years
Partying, Drinking, Drugging, Casual Sex (Hooking Up), and Gangs
Date Rape
The Dangers of Social Networking and the Internet
Risky Relationships
Stalkers
Child Predators, Serial Rapists, and Serial Killers
The Sex Trade and Sex Trafficking

Criminal Profiling Topic of the Day: University of Montana Quarterback Date Rape Travesty

 University of Montana quarterback, Jordan Johnson (pictured left) , accused in March of rape, was formally charged late Tuesday afternoon with sexual intercourse without consent.
The felony charge, which carries a potential sentence of two years to life in prison, was filed just before the close of business in Missoula County District Court by Suzy Boylan, assistant chief deputy county attorney. Johnson was immediately suspended from the Grizzlies football team, which is scheduled to start practice Monday, said UM President Royce Engstrom. That suspension continues until the outcome of legal proceedings.

 All over the Internet, the comments following some 300 news articles about this case are cheering in support of women who have been date raped and how thrilled they are that this lowly bastard has been charged with this horrific crime. I am not one of them. I am appalled at our system of justice and the support of this travesty. Below are the facts (from the victim's own mouth) and my analysis of her claims.

In the affidavit, [assistant chief deputy county attorney.Suzy Boylan] described a chain of events that began with a text message from Johnson suggesting that he and the alleged victim get together that night. They decided to watch a movie at her house, and she picked him up because he'd been drinking and didn't want to drive, according to the affidavit.
One of the woman's roommates was asleep, the other was playing video games in the living room, it said.
Johnson began kissing the woman as they watched a movie in her room, it said. Although she first kissed him back, she then said, "Let's just watch the movie," the affidavit said.
"She tried to keep things light and tried to discourage his advances," according to the affidavit.
Although the woman said she told him "no" repeatedly, he persisted, saying at one point, "I will make you," it said. Then he raped her, it said.
The documents described the woman as feeling "scared and ‘shut down,' " and said, "She was afraid he would hit her if she resisted further."
Afterward, according to the affidavit, the woman texted her roommate in the living room, saying "Omg … I think I might have just gotten raped ... he kept pushing and pushing and I said no but he wouldn't listen … I just wanna cry ... Omg what do I do!"

           The woman drove Johnson home that night and went to UM's Student Assault Resource Center the           next morning. Since then, she's been treated for Rape Trauma Syndrome.


 Seriously? Really? This young man's life gets destroyed, his name is ruined, because of the word of this girl that she was raped (and there are many false reporters of rape for a variety of reasons)? Let's review this whole scenario.

The "victim" has known this guy for a year. They have been texting for months. Consequently, she should have some idea of his character and whether he is a guy that would want to have sex with her or rape her.

On the night in question, he calls her up drunk wanting to get together. She says yes. She suggests a movie - to the drunk college boy - at her apartment in her bedroom.

She drives over to get him (because he is too inebriated to drive himself over) and brings him to her apartment.

She takes him to her bedroom where they lie together on her bed (I doubt there is a couch in their room, but this is possible). The young man notes her roommate is right down the way playing a video game in the livingroom. The "victim" states there is yet another woman supposedly asleep in her room (but at that time she could not have known if she was awake or not).

They start kissing on the bed (or couch); she kisses him back indicating she is more interested in a sexual encounter of some kind rather than the movie they are supposed to be watching.

Then she claims she tried to discourage his advances repeatedly. Note: she did not get up and leave the room.

She claims she told him repeatedly, "No," and at some point he said, "I will make you." Note: she did not get up and leave the room.

Now, she claims she was afraid he would hit her and so she let's him have sex with her. Note: she did not even try to leave the room and she did not shout out to her roommates for help, in spite of the fact one of her roommates was clearly awake nearby.

Afterwards, she texts that roommate, saying, "Omg … I think I might have just gotten raped ... he kept pushing and pushing and I said no but he wouldn't listen … I just wanna cry ... Omg what do I do!"

She think she might have just gotten raped? That is a very deceptive statement which indicates she does not believe what she is saying herself. She then explains that "he kept pushing and pushing and I said no but he wouldn't listen." Pushing someone to have sex is NOT rape; it is obnoxious, it is annoying, and it is ungentlemanly, but it is not rape if the woman gets tired of the pressure and gives in. If a woman "gives in," she has not been raped; she has been seduced in a rather unerotic manner. It seems like what we are dealing with here is "buyer's remorse".

Having been "raped," the "victim" then kindly drives her rapist home. She goes to the clinic the next day but doesn't report the "rape" to the police for six weeks.

This is utter rot. The woman has not in any way described a rape. The prosecutor's office should be ashamed of charging Jordan Johnson with rape when there is no proof of one. The University of Montana should be ashamed of tossing Johnson off the football team. And all those folks who I see jumping up adn down in support of this woman and gleefully clapping that Johnson has gotten his comeuppance should be ashamed that he has been tried by the public and with not one shred of evidence proving his guilt.

There ARE women who have suffered being raped by an acquaintance or a date and it is sad that the victim, the female, most often cannot prove she was raped very successfully in a court of law because of the lack of visible trauma (especially if she was too drunk to be able to make any move to defend herself which is most often the case) and the he said/she said problem of it all. Usually, the rape occurs in a location where a threat might scare the victim enough not to fight back or she is so out of it she can't. In this case, neither of these two circumstances applied, so the "victim's" story has no credibility to me at all.

It is not okay for our daughters to be raped by college boys who think they are entitled to "hit it" if they want. But, it is also not okay for our sons to be accused of crimes they did not commit and have their futures completely destroyed. And, most importantly, it is not fair to rape victims, true rape victims, to  have cases like this cause a backlash against them.

Criminal Profiler Pat Brown

August 3, 2012          

                 

How to Save your Daughter's Life by Pat Brown will be out on August 15, 2012. Pre-order from Amazon or Barnes and Noble.

There is a whole chapter in the book about Date Rape and how to keep your daughter from becoming a victim of this crime and the realities of date rape in our society and court system.